Feel Well – Be Well

As we embrace the bright January mornings striving to achieve newly made new years resolutions let us not forget that confidence, and self belief, is the key to making this happen.

Confidence is something which we gain through experience over time and with this our own self belief develops.

From my own experiences I’d like to give you four small and simple steps to helping you to build your own self confidence.

Be Brave

Whether its day or night walk with a good posture and hold your head with pride. Those who walk with an uncomfortable stance will project an unconfident and vulnerable image to others. Those who stride with confidence are less likely to be questioned.

Learn to Laugh

Learn to laugh. A good friend of mine who recently spoke about confidence building at one of our Hot Candys events spoke about the power of humour.

Whilst out one day out dressed and being approached by a group of young people who jeered ‘your a man in a dress arn’t you?’ she replied well I certainly hope so, and laughed back at them! At her crisp honesty and wit the group didn’t know how to react and soon afterwards left her alone. So girls, learn to laugh as the power of humour is not only a good means of communication but also an invaluable tool.

Feel Good Secrets

Wear what makes you feel good! Sounds quite self explanatory I know but seriously its the little things. Potty as it sounds I have two things that help me, my ‘special’ perfume (ok ok its Chanel Chance) and my blue lacy knickers! Every time I wore my blue knickers good things happened…I got job interviews…won money on the lottery…lost weight etc so when I was having a rubbish week I used to wear them to cheer me up and boost my confidence! The perfume is one I wear to important meetings, exhibitions and special nights out like the theatre or orchestra, so again when I was feeling like I needed a little confidence boost I’d wear it. Immediately the smell would make me feel like I was in a position of calm and control and with that I felt more confident. So it could be anything, a piece of music, a favourite drink or place to eat but do it. It’s all the little things that help.

Be Safe

This point I’d like to emphasise the most girls.

Its simple and straightforward but stay safe. This doesn’t mean that you have to stay in but if your going out then plan journeys beforehand. Research new areas and cities and be aware of trans friendly venues and areas. Make sure you always have a taxi number of a local firm packed with your lippy; and don’t forget to play safe too!

At Hot Candys we do encourage our girls (and boys) to add any trans friendly venues, business’s and places to go to our website so if you have any recommendations then please feel free to add them wherever they are in the country!

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